When is Time to Move Them?
Being able to keep your older parents safe at home and age in place is the ideal scenario. Statistics show that 80% of all seniors intend to age in place; however, the number of people who actually manage to do that is only 20%. As people get older, their ability to live at home may become more challenging due to health concerns or their ability to live independently. This article discusses safety concerns, how to start the conversation about moving, and who to turn to for assistance.
Considerations for Parent Safety
There are specific things to look for when evaluating whether your parents are safe at home. The first one is to determine if they can do activities of daily living (ADLs) such as getting dressed, brushing their hair and teeth, bathing, eating, preparing meals independently, and taking their mediations. Are they are having trouble doing some or all of these tasks, and what is preventing them from doing so? They may need assistance, or have a developing medical issue, that requires modifications to be made at home.
Next, determine if your parents are experiencing signs of forgetfulness that could be dangerous (for example, leaving the stove on); check whether they’ve experienced serious falls or other health concerns that led to repeated hospitalizations, or if they have experienced financial exploitation.
Talking to Your Parents About Moving
If your parents have experienced one or more of these issues, moving them to an assisted living facility or nursing home is an option. Have a conversation with them about your concerns. Listen to what they say and empathize with their frustrations and fears. Don’t rush the conversation or feel as if you both have to come to an agreement right now. Give them time to think about moving. If there are immediate concerns about safety, come up with a list of other care options, such as a caregiver, and investigate those in the interim.
Managing a Move
So much goes into identifying the right living situation for your parents. Not to mention all the logistical concerns involved in downsizing and moving, if that is the right option. Utilizing the services of an aging care manager will make the process much easier. Aging care managers specialize in helping older people and their families with any concerns related to aging. Many managers have background in nursing or social work. They act as an objective third-party who can make recommendations, arrange for services as needed, and often act as a mediator in delicate situations.
An aging care manager will assess your parents and find a nursing home or assisted living community. If a move is the best option for your parents, the aging care manager helps guide you through the process. This includes having a company come in to help your parents downsize. Also, they can help organize their belongings, going over the cost of care in a nursing home or care community, and arranging for other services that your parents could benefit from if appropriate.
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